Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Why I Make Jewelry

I shared on Facebook about an email I received from my Writing instructor asking for permission to submit the 2nd essay I wrote for his class to the "Best Essay" contest held each term for the WR121 classes.  I've always been too critical of my own writing, not liking how it sounds, always editing and editing...always a perfectionist.  I don't know what's changed, but I think I'm ready to share that essay with the rest of the world, to open myself up to you.  

Why I Make Jewelry
            Cut three 3 inch pieces of wire.  With one or two strikes, hammer the tip of each wire into a paddle shape.  File the edges.  My desk is organized; several pairs of pliers are lined up with wire shears, files, and hammers.  Containers of beads sit next to coils of wire and both are next to the stack of design books.  A fuzzy bead mat covers most of my free space and keeps the beads from rolling onto the floor.  Scraps of wire litter the floor around my workspace.  Unfinished projects wait for the inspiration to strike again, begging to be finished.
On one wire, string a 3 mm round, a furnace glass disc, and a 3 mm round.  On the other wires, string a 2 mm round, a 4 mm bicone, and a 2 mm round.  My journey into jewelry making began eighteen months ago when I picked up a kit with all of the components necessary to make six pairs of earrings.  I was aimlessly wandering through Walmart, contemplating the changes in my life.  I was newly transplanted from Phoenix, Arizona, to Banks, Oregon.  My career as a financial aid officer was over, ended at the whim of an unstable boss.  Everything lined up like the beads on my wire to prepare me for my new job that was thirteen hundred miles away.  My new job was to be caregiver to my cousin on life support, substitute mommy to her daughters, and live in housekeeper, laundry maid, and kitchen queen for her husband. 
Begin with the furnace glass dangle.  With chain nose pliers, bend the wire about 2 mm above the top bead.  When I agreed to move to Oregon, I did not realize how difficult my new job was going to be.  I started my day at 6:30 a.m. getting the girls ready for school.  This was followed by a round of medicines and respiratory treatments for my cousin. These medical treatments were scheduled for every four hours throughout the day and into the night.  In between the treatments I worked on the never-ending laundry pile, meal preparations, homework help, and discipline.  My day did not end until after 10:30 p.m., and at times even went into the night.  I was running on empty, lacking sleep and energy.
Bend the wire back to begin a zigzag pattern.  Continue until the zigzag portion is about ¾ inch long.  I felt like a piece of wire bent in a zigzag pattern.  I was always rushing from one end of the house to the other.  One particularly stressful night I remembered that I had bought the earring kit and it was waiting for me to open it.  I had been drowning in stress; that kit became my lifesaver.  It gave me a chance to relax and unwind for the only thing in the world was me, a few inches of wire, and beads.  Joy was found in the bending of wire to follow a pattern.  Peace was found in stringing beads on the bent wire.  Healing happened in the completion of the project.  Pride came in selling the final result. 
Trim the zigzag wire 3/8 inch above the top bend and make a plain loop.  Trim one of the other wires to 1 3/8 inch and the third wire to 1 1/8 inch.  Make a plain loop at the end of each wire.  I grew confident in my skills as a fledgling jewelry maker.  My paycheck went towards buying design books and beads, always more beads.  I started recreating the patterns in the books I had.  Once I had confidence in myself with my re-creations, I branched out into free designing.  I started creating my own designs and what surprised me most of all was that people wanted to buy my creations.  
Open the loop on an earring wire and attach the dangles, stringing the shortest one first and the zigzag last.  Close the loop.  Make a second earring to match the first.  My cousin is no longer with us as she made the decision to turn off life support in July. Her death caused me to go into a depression, a grief so deep I grew suicidal.  There was no joy in life for me. I did not know what my purpose was.  Jewelry making once again became my outlet with a little bit of grief left behind with each twist of the pliers, each bend of the wire, each finished product.  It’s for this reason that I make jewelry

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Grief

There’s always a phone call you don’t want to get.
There’s always an email you don’t want to read.
And yet, we get these letters and phone calls.
Our world drops out from under us.
And tears fall…
And they fall even more…

We remember the good times with happiness…the laughter, the joy, the love.
We cringe at the bad memories…the anger, the hurt, the disappointment.
            And tears fall again…
And the tears fall after we think we no longer have tears.

Everyone tells you that it will be okay…
            That it works out in the end.

But what do they really know?
Do they know the pain that makes it hurt to breathe?
Do they know the anger that comes from thinking you could have done something?

Yet it makes you remember that you are alive…
And that you have others in your life…
                        That need to be hugged, and held, and loved.

Just like you need to be hugged, and held, and loved…
            And then you feel imaginary arms around you…
                        And you feel them there with you…

And you know everything is going to be okay.

In memory of James "Papa Bear" Chapman
1951-2012